How To Be Happy – My Secret To Happiness & Fulfillment
What you'll learn in this article:
- What am I putting into my body? Is it helping me or poisoning me?
- What am I doing with my time? Am I growing or regressing?
- Am I helping people or harming them?
- Who am I doing this for after all?
As we all now know, being in a good state dramatically improves your game. If you’ve been engaged with MOA for a while and have been taking action, there must have been times when you felt happy and fulfilled and performed light years ahead of what you thought was capable. On the other hand, when you felt stifled and depressed, your results were not that extraordinary.
This article will focus on what I ask myself every morning upon waking up to see if I’m on the right path and on my way to a rich and fulfilled life, where I can always be in a relaxed and positive state without the use of external substances such as drugs and/or alcohol.
These are long-term mantras you should ask yourself in order to be in a better mood instead of relying on positive reactions and feedback. By following these four simple rules and acting upon them, your life will improve in every aspect such as game, health, business and overall success in life.
#1 Don’t poison yourself
Research shows that there is a direct correlation between how you treat your body and the way your brain reacts to it. This can be a subtle effect that many guys and girls may overlook but subconsciously there is a shift in mind state wellbeing.
Examples of poisoning to your body:
- Unhealthy food
Chances are, after the initial high of the substances has worn off, it has made you feel sick and in some cases, empty. Waking up with a hangover is never a good way to start your day. Frequently indulging in these harmful substances will destroy both your body and your motivation.
On a lighter note, when you treat your body with a balanced and varied diet, your brain receives a cascade of positive nutrients which will keep you energized and motivated throughout the day as well as subtlety uplifting your mood in the long run.
Treat your body like a temple, not a woodshed. The mind and the body work together. Your body needs to be a good support system for the mind and the spirit. If you take good care of it, your body can take you wherever you want to go, with the power and the strength and energy and vitality you will need to get there.
#2 Stop procrastinating
Time is your most valuable asset. So what are you doing with your time? If your answer is watching ‘Orange is the New Black’ then you need to revaluate your existence on this planet. Jokes aside, you need to ask yourself if you are being productive with your time.
The way I see it: If you are sitting at home procrastinating, you are taking one step back instead of forward.
Examples of what you should be doing with your time instead:
- Exercise (Even 20 mins a day is extremely beneficial)
- Building your business
- Working (If you’re at school, studying)
- Meeting new people
- Going out
- Hobbies ( Netflix doesn’t count)
When we are younger we tend to think that life is unlimited and tend to take it for granted. The truth is that we have a limited time on this planet and we need to maximise our time on it by growing as a person. Stagnation is a recipe for disaster so be productive with your time in order to become the best version of yourself and a happy and fulfilled person.
You may delay, but time will not, and lost time is never found again.
#3 Give value
An extremely important question I ask myself every day is if i’m helping people or harming them. Altruism is hardwired into our brain, giving us the same pleasurable feelings as Sex or Drugs. That being said, offering value to people is a great way to become a happier, fulfilled and successful man.
There is a Chinese saying that goes:
‘If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help somebody.’
For centuries, the greatest thinkers have suggested the same thing: ‘Happiness is found in helping others.’
This may seem to be hard step to fathom at first, especially if you don’t know where to start. It goes further than just giving a homeless person some spare change or helping people cross the street.
Here are some ways in which you can offer value to people around you:
- Find ways to integrate your interests and skills with people around you.
- Offer your time. Spend time with people.
- Be proactive in giving. Being guilted into giving money for your friends fundraiser is not the same as proactively offering to help them out.
#4 Why am I doing this and who is it for
When men first started getting into game and self improvement, they came from a place of trying to feed their ego. They visualize themselves killing it at game and how it will make them feel awesome in the future. If what you are doing is feeding your ego then true happiness and fulfillment will always be just out of your grasp.
Remember that your ego is holding you back, when you let go of the pressure to feed your ego and trying to be congruent with who you wish you were as a person, it will become easier to become a relaxed fun-loving guy.
Ask yourself if it’s worth it to get into a fight with the drunk guy at the bar or if it’s just better to walk away.
The problem with introspection is that it has no end.
Purpose and meaning are what drive us to being the best version of ourselves.
Every person wishes to be happy and fulfilled. When our purpose and meaning is at stake, we start to question ourselves and our time on this planet. Let go of your ego and follow your passions to live a fulfilled and wealthy life.